Who Is Steve Mayeda
A few years ago I noticed there were a few things missing from my life. It wasn't that I was unsuccessful, it wasn't that I was completely unhappy, it wasn't even that I hadn't had great experiences in my life.
The thing with me, is that I had worked as a photographer, I had played music, I had a rich life, but I still felt like a wimp when I saw a woman I found attractive. I had no idea what to say to them. I felt inadequate and afraid, I felt that although the life I lived was full in many ways, I had nothing that was attractive to show them.
Evolve your Sexuality – 5 Fundamentals of The Sexual Life
Saturday, 24th December 2011
Sex – Life – Confusion
We live life but we are afraid
We fear experience we want to control our outcomes
We search for meaning and definition, and forget purpose
We fear sex but we want sex
We obsessed over sex but it has become more fantasy than reality
We are ashamed of sex and we are consumed by it.
We wonder why we are so confused.
What is your sexuality?
What is your life?
Sex is one of the most natural human acts and it has become distorted. Something that is normal, natural and one of the highest forms of communication has become a point of confusion and frustration.
To get back to that natural state of sexuality and living a fulfilling life we need to cultivate and maintain a good mindset.
We need to realize how important and vital sex is to our lives.
With working these 5 fundamentals your Sexual Life will be more about an expression and exchange of you and another person rather than trying to make you be something you’re not.
The Sexual Life’s goal is to end the desperate search trying to fulfill a lost identity.
The fundamentals of the Sexual Life are -
* Identity
* Connection
* Self-Acceptance
* Sex is a part of Life
* Everyone is Sexual
First we need to understand what I mean by the Sexual Life -
To be Sexual there is –
Sex – The Act
Seduction - The Process
Sexuality – The Result of Sex and Seduction
To live Life there is –
Identity – Who you are really are, rather than a façade
Experience – Your experiences not just your actions
Purpose – What fuels you rather than simply your results
The 5 key fundamentals will be the path to your Sexual Evolution
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1 – Identity –
Live your life, not your lie
At the core of all personal change YOU need to be in it. At the core of your sexuality YOU need to be in it.
You need to be you. Not a façade, not a fake identity, not an act. Yes you might borrow some things from people you might ‘fake it till you make it’, but you need to come back to you.
I have seen this lack of authenticity fuck more people up than anything else in the Seduction, Self-help and the Recovery/Addiction industries.
It is as if WE are afraid to be in the equation to OUR path of change. It is as if we are afraid to have sex without an image guiding us.
In my 5 years of teaching the most angry, pissed off, dysfunctional and frustrated clients all have one thing in common – They bought into an idea, that told them –
they could have what they wanted by not being themselves.
There are nothing wrong with methods, systems and actions that teach you a new way to live; however how these things are sold is that they work independent of that person’s life. A system can only accent who you already are.
Why anyone would want a life outside of themselves is something to question, if this is what you’re looking for a ‘quick fix’ product isn’t going to help you. It will most likely fuck you up more. Every move you make in your life should not be detached from who you are.
To experience means you are affected, you might feel joy and you might feel pain. The key is to not live reactions of those things.
You need to be proud of yourself. You need to be you. If you throw your life to the side to be something you’re not that act alone takes away your pride, and puts you on a path of self-hate.
As a culture we are afraid of sex and afraid of being ourselves. We would rather be in love with a fantasy than to feel the rich intimacy, vulnerability and love that sex can offer. Sex has become an exaggeration of porn and on the other end shame. This is all because we are unwilling to be ourselves with someone else.
2 – Connection -
There are few things more beautiful than connecting with another human being. Connection is the exchange of intimacy, passion, chaos and humanity.
We forget this.
We forget that sex is simply an act of connection, we forget that our happiness is dependent upon how we connect with the world around us.
Biological beings cannot live without some connection within their species. It is built into us.
Yet we look at sex as a society as something we can get, take, dominate or have. Sex is the ultimate act of sharing. If you meet get married it is an exchange…
If you meet a woman and have a single night rendezvous it is an exchange. If you hire a prostitute it is an exchange.
We are afraid to share. We are afraid to exchange.
Why is this?
There are 2 reasons that come to mind
1 – We are afraid to show ourselves
2 – We are afraid to be affected by others
You see in the ‘quick fix’ nature of self-help and seduction industries the general theme is that you can simply reap the benefits they offer without having to really be you. You won’t get hurt, you won’t get affected in any ways that bring you pain. Their method will stop the pain of loneliness and depression and you’ll be great all without having to face yourself.
We have more faith in Prozac than working through our problems. Don’t get me wrong, if you’re seriously depressed seek help, there is nothing wrong with taking prescribed drugs if you need them. However, many people get prescriptions that don’t need them.
What the problem is with many of these drugs that numb your depression, anxiety and so on, is they numb everything else.
Our lives are built on being numb. Human connection is at the heart of experience.
Happiness is meaningless if we can’t experience it with anybody.
The delusion is that we believe more in getting what we want than connecting with people. We think that achieving our goals, having ambition without respecting the simple human act of relating, accepting and having compassion will make us happy. These things will not alone make us happy, we need to have the element of human connection interlacing it all together.
I love sex, and so does the rest of the world.
For me personally, I have had all different types of sexual interactions. In the past I would hear about something new and I want to try it.
However more than sex, I love connection (I had to learn the hard way) . You can have calm and mellow missionary sex all the way to orgies, gangbangs and whatever else you can imagine, but without connection being the motivation and inspiration behind those acts they will simply be acts, and they will turn into confusion and chaos.
Sex is one of the highest forms of communication and it should be respected in this way.
That connection of sex is so powerful that culture after culture tries to put rules on it.
Connection is something that is bigger than anything man can make, simply because it is at the heart of anything man makes…connection will always be the catalyst to what surpasses itself.
3 – Self-Acceptance -
If we know who we are (Identity) we need to accept who we are (Self-Acceptance)
A life without self-acceptance is a life hiding behind guilt and shame.
We look at what we can get not at why we want what we want
We blindly try and explore ourselves without truly exploring ourselves.
We can’t fix who we are if we can’t accept who we are.
Too many people are unwilling to look at themselves.
Too many people think their flaws are meant to be hidden, covered or even unattractive.
I want to be a human being not some robot or mask.
Here is the reality, no matter how perfect you think you are, you’re not. You never will be.
However you can absolutely evolve, everyone has the capacity for massive personal change.
No matter how much you think your life is set in stone, let alone your sexuality, it is not. The initial steps towards that transformation have to do with self-acceptance.
My friend Dave told me once,
“You’re going to have to come to terms with who you are and practice some self-acceptance. If you’re the guy that goes around and fucks chicks and does whatever crazy shit you’re into, there is nothing wrong with that, if you’re honest with yourself about it. But the confusion comes into play when you try and not be that guy and you’re living as 2 different people at the same time.”
People want something to cover up with rather than be themselves or express themselves.
You see this in the seduction industry over and over again.
What the industry in general says,
‘To be an alpha male you have to do what you want and figure out ways to avoid responsibility’.
How can I have sex and trick these chicks into being ok with it???
Here’s the answer,
You can have whatever sexual life you want. You can have as many women in your life that you want, but in reality it is more of a question of what you can handle…
Can you handle a sex life with many partners; can you handle having multiple relationships with women?
If you’re planning to lie about it, there is nothing ‘alpha’ about that.
What Dave was telling me was simply that I had to accept myself first. If I was hiding from my actions, or my actions from other people then I was manifesting shame. It doesn’t matter how good I get at communication, it doesn’t matter how much I can control a situation if I have guilt, shame or self-hate then I am always going to move backwards.
I need to accept myself, the good and the bad. If I have a speech impediment, handicap, emotional issues, a disease or deformity , anger towards women I need to first learn to look at that and accept it, then I can determine if I am going to express it to the world around me.
Anger is a lack of acceptance. Depression (or anger turned inwards) is a lack of self-acceptance.
Life, Sex, Humanity is not a template, it is not a system, it is not a routine. You need to accept your life and find that true freedom is in that.
4 – Sex is a part of life -
Sex is one of the greatest forces known to man.
We forget that.
Life (literally) begins with sex.
However so much is communicated, defined and cultivated through sex. Sex is its own form of communication. We forget how powerful it is, we forget how much respect it demands.
I know men and women that think sex will make them happy.
The sad thing is that is can make them happy, but it doesn’t. The reason why is sex is not respected. It is simply an act. It might be an act of validation, or and act of a simple urge.
The problem is when sex is only an act your sexuality has no purpose.
If we sex as something that is at the root of all life, at the root of many of our emotions, and its own special language then our sex acts can be fulfilling. Our sexuality makes us happy.
Instead our fears towards who we are (Identity) giving a part of ourselves (Connection) and loving accepting who we are and the acts we are doing (Self-Acceptance) keep sex as only a simple act.
We think it is bad, we think it is harmful, shaming, lewd and so on. Sex is part of life!
Sex is also bigger than us, we will never master it, control it or be able to truly put a definition on it.
The same goes for life, at most we can simply live it.
When we stop being humble towards sex and sexuality we will be humiliated by it.
We need to recognize sex’s power and beauty and express that through ourselves, this is what we call our sexuality – our expression of that great force.
5 - Everyone is Sexual -
We are already sexual – to have the best sexual experiences we need to take things away more than add them.
We forget this.
We forget that we are sexual, we forget the people we are attracted to are sexual. The more we see people as not sexual beings the more we build walls around our relationships with people.
I hear women all the time say that they don’t want to be sex objects. The problem is not the ‘sex’ part, it is the ‘object’ part.
The more we see people as some sort of check list or category the more we get away from the organic nature of a person’s sexuality.
Both women and men do this constantly. They think attraction is something that can be listed off and categorized, while it might be true (people are more attracted to certain qualities and body types) we have to realize that our sexual side can over power our tastes.
This is where both women and men get it wrong.
Women will always say they are attracted to confidence, humor, height and so on.
Men will say they are attracted to her breast size, ass, weight, open-mindedness and so on.
This is all what we like, this is not our sexual side. There is a difference.
Sex is a force within us.
We might give attention to specific features however our sexual urges always win once they are stimulated.
I know many men and women who can define what they are attracted to and what they want in a sex partner…they hardly ever get it.
Women and men who you would think can get anyone they want are never fulfilled. This is because they are not realizing sex is more about connection than a checklist. People who value and build their relationships on intimacy, connection, exchange are people that have relationships. People that value relationships on what they are attracted or what they want don’t have relationships people, they have relationships with a fantasy they are trying to manage.
Where the Seduction industry gets it wrong is it is predominantly based on the idea that women are sexually attracted to social value.
I can guarantee you that most women’s pussies don’t get wet when they see a nice car or men with a lot of money, status or whatever. And the women who’s ovaries do move when they see that are the rare ones that you should avoid.
In fact I would bet that a women seeing a man with a lot of status and attention would have considerably less physical arousal than a women watching a man with no money playing with his infant child.
This status simply gets women’s attention and allows you more opportunities to get sexual. But then what are you having sex with.
The seduction industry is an industry full of technique on how to have sex that has nothing to do with sex.
If guys in the seduction industry simple got that seduction is in everyone and nearly independent of status they would gain a lot more ground at having IDEAL SEXUAL relationships with women.
If women who watched Lifetime movies and read Cosmo realized that their fantasy of some man recognizing them for their personality. Sexuality, sex and relationships aren’t a list of qualities, femininity (as well as masculinity) isn’t a demand for something. You have to be sexual, you have to experience to have your definition. If you’re on the sidelines then you’re just taking notes. Remember the beauties of sex are beyond any list you come up with. Your lists and theories without experiences to shape them are only opinions.
The whole thing is that both sides have come up with these bizarre fucked up rules for each other so their in a constant state of confusion and frustration.
Women and men need to realize that they are meant to be sexual.
Every man and woman I know and talk to all want to be desired. They all want people to be attracted to them. Every woman I know wants to be hot, every woman I know wants the ability to arouse a man and every woman I know doesn’t want to be hit on poorly by a man.
She wants to her sexuality to be respected but what does she put out there to be respected. A girl with no personality demanding her personality to be respected because her frustrated friends that get walked on by men said so.
The sad thing is neither women nor men do enough to be respected.
Rather than going out and experiencing life they would rather take the shortcut to manhood. No man is secure with his presence as a man. Rather than getting comfortable with himself and follow his natural urges to pursue a woman he’d read a book on how to be alpha so he could finally be perceived as a leader…after that he can fuck some bitches.
This is why you have 25 year old men pounding Viagra so they can ‘fuck like a porn star’ or think they need a bigger dick to be better in bed.
This is why women have more sex partners than ever before but have no concept of how to move their bodies and have an orgasm.
Nobody knows how to seduce or be intimate…
No man knows how make a woman feel like a woman, and no woman knows how to make a man feel like a man.
Sex has no boundaries and somehow ‘modern day humanity’ has taken the most human thing and suffocated it.
Men and women are too caught up being boys and girls. Part of growing up is to be a sexual person.
Part of being a man is to show women they make you aroused, and part of being a woman is to show a man you’re aroused by him (a slut just fucks them).
The art in it all is experiencing sex but doing it in the right way. That’s where the fear lies…we might have to take a step by ourselves, we might have to fail, we might have to get rejected, but only through this is the path to enlightenment.
WE ARE ALL SEXUAL BEINGS!
When we live by our fears our Identity becomes a façade
When we are living by a façade our sex can only be an action.
When our sex is only an action we become frustrated and want to control things.
When we value control over experience we search for definitions and fear our experiences.
When we live by definitions we put our faith in a series of action and we have no purpose.
When we have no purpose we only become the sum of our results.
Results without purpose is the worst mirror one can stand infront of
Our Sexuality is no longer an expression of who we are and what we are sharing with someone, our Sexuality and our Purpose is a checklist. We have taken 2 things (Sex and Life) that need no help, you just have to do them, and tied them in knots.
Live well
and comments always welcome
Steve
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All my students have a short Clip where you can hear their experiences, and they also have an Interview with me. The Interviews are packed with their experiences and how they progressed from working with me.
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Counselor Chicago, IL Chicago Workshop Nov 2008 Amit – as with many of the people on this page – is a direct example of why I teach the way I teach. I met Amit at a Lair talk and he approached me afterward asking me if I could help him. He was wearing Sun Glasses and took them off telling me he had his eyes impaired as a child due to a rare Cancer. I immediately said, ‘you’re coming with me, you have no idea what a gift you have.’
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Runs Tech business with family NYC, NY Mentor Program 2008, 1-on-1 2009 and Workshop 2009 Raj has been a long time friend as well as a long time student. A few years ago Raj contacted me about helping me out with some technical support. Raj is a wizard with technical stuff, websites, html, you know all that stuff that is like reading Chinese for me. A lot of people will offer me help, but there are very few who deliver. Raj Delivered and he Delivered big time! Ever since then Raj and I have built a Student/Teacher relationship that grows and grows. Often times he teaches me stuff, like uploading Audio and Video to the internet. One thing that Raj had always had trouble with was making his social circle work for him and mastering the cold approach. Raj loves Day Game, but wanted to learn everything while on his journey to meeting and attracting the women of his dreams. Raj also travels extensively and wanted to be able to meet and attract a woman instantly on his travels. Since we have started our work together Raj has done a series of phone consults with me, done a 1-on-1 in March of 2009 and also attended one of the Austin workshops in August of 2009. He was on one of the Legendary Workshops where, Zuzu and Von were at. Since then, they have all stayed in touch and built more and more of a network where guys can make progress and grow while having some of the best skills that can be taught.
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The California Pimp
Owner of www.netvideogirls.com California Friend and Pat-time Business Partner I can’t really call the California Pimp my student, because I actually learned from him. But I will say this, I have become really good friends with him and we have definitely learned from each other. I was actually a member of his site (www.netvideogirls.com) before I made it into the PUA scene. Once I got good with the skill set of meeting and attracting women, I looked up the Ca Pimp and we instantly became friends. He is someone who I trust with huge parts of my life as he is with me. The California Pimp has actually been someone who has influenced me in ways that no other Instructor in my field has. He was the first to tell me how getting better with women and having the knowledge to seduce will challenge cetian sides of you as a man. It will confront fears and put you onto a path of action. In any case, I am honored that with all the PUAs the Ca Pimp has met and known I am the only one that gets his endorsement.
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Scotty from OTM
Owener of www.onthermat.com
Hermosa, Ca Owner of theREDstack Aug 2008
Scotty is another guy that it is hard to call a student, but at one time he was. When Alex and I were hanging out with Scotty in Las Vegas last year after Scotty had gotten theREDstack, Alex said, “Scotty is what every MPUA wishes he was”, and Alex is right. Scptty’s life is pretty much managing www.onthemat.com and living the life. You want to know how to cut the line in any club, go from being a no name guy to a pimp, meeting and almost instantly seducing models and ring girls, waitresses and bartenders - You need to do what Scotty did…
In any case, there is a reason why I wear his clothes (OTM Shirts) on my Videos, because he is a great guy and done a lot for me. Like I said it is had to call this guy a student, cause I have learned a TON from him, but for the most part he is a great friend.
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Alex
Mutual Fund Manager Las Vegas, NV Owner of theREDstack Nov 2007 and 1 – on – 1 Student Jan 2008 Alex is someone who has ended up living a life that every PUA back in the day wishes they lived. He has literally built a lifestyle that has, Money, Women, and Adventure all into one. This wasn’t always the life he lived in fact when he first moved to Las Vegas he took a workshop I happened to be volunteering on and he was far from the reality of part-time celebrity ladies man he is now. He was a guy that was just out of a relationship and didn’t know if he could have more. He got theREDstack and that taught him what to say, then he worked almost endlessly with me achieve one of the most advanced levels of PU that it truly transcended into something more. He now enjoys the nights that every man wishes for every night of the week.
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Steve
Physician Oklahoma City, Ok Owner of theREDstack Feb 2008 and 1 – on – 1 Student March of 2008 Steve is also a good friend of mine who I have quite possibly learned more from than what I taught him. Steve and I bonded immediately on our life experiences being so similar. He was out of a relationship with his fiancé and really didn’t know where to turn. He looked around online and I feel very grateful that he found me.
What happened was he initially hired me for theREDstack, he got immediate results getting a Same Night Lay (SNL) within a few days of having it. He then hired me for some individual training and that is where things really took off. On his workshop he got another SNL on the second night of us going out. He has since managed to build a lifestyle that almost anyone would be envious of, he has a strong career, abundant women in his life and a true sense of wisdom and purpose that propels him. The fact that he credit me with a portion of this makes me very proud and honored to have him as one of my students. In many ways I look up to him.
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Vancouver Canada Ower of theREDstack Oct of 2007 and 1 – on -1 Student from Nov of 2008 This is a student I am really proud of on so many levels. Danny and I originally met online through the different Dating forums and Boards. He was one of the first recipients of theREDstack (he got one of the first 5 ever made). After achieve success with theREDstack he wanted to take things a step further and do a 1-on-1, this seems to be the best combination that people have the most success with. After the 1-on-1 there was a huge jump. Dan was able to get Same Night Lay (SNL) after Same Night Lay. In fact I even saw him get one in Vegas that took about 3 mins. It wasn’t long that Dan moved into the realm of so many of my Advanced Students where he realized that meeting and Attracting Women meant more than just racking up SNLs. He found that meeting and attracting women actually brought out more about him and thus started a new road to change. He talks about it in my interview with him.
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James
Physician Atlanta, Ga
Owner of theREDstack Oct 2008 He went from someone who had bought the bootcamp bought the ebooks was able to gain some ground but still was frustrated. He couldn’t get those numbers to stick, couldn’t gain heavy and instant attraction, and couldn’t hit hard in comfort. After theREDstack he started dating 4 girls at once, could walk into a Strip Club and get 10min number closes that stuck and even was able to pull girls out of the strip club and take them home that same night. Not only has it been a joy to have a student that got great results from me but James has also become a great friend, and he does one of the best impersonations of me.
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Hammer!
NYC NY
IT Technician
1-on-1 Student March of 2009
Hammer is a 23 year old young professional with a determined career ahead of him. He had a life changing experience a few years back that made him realize he had to live the life he wanted to live. He looked at a few people who could help him on this path (part of it meeting and attracting the best women in the world) and he hired me. On his workshop he got immediate results. We worked together for 3 dsays, on the second day he was able to pull a girl form the bar take her into the bathroom and the rest is history. He talked to her for 15mins prior to that. Aside from that Hammer was able to achieve new levels with his results even months later. He now says that he can literally talk to a girl for just a few mins and build a bond that is not just sexual but emotional as well.
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Justin
Atlanta GA Dentist Owner of theREDstack March of 2008 also a 1-on-1 student July of 2008 Justin is someone who had found the Dating and Lifestyle community to not only get good with women but also to give back. He has gone on to teach and also help cultivate the Atlanta Lair (a forum for empowering men in Atlanta) but he started out by hiring me to take him to the next level. He got there, and he got there fast. On his workshop he leaned quick, pulling a Stripper form the club and taking him to his hotel, as well as pulling a girl he met at a restaurant into the parking lot…and the rest is history. Justin not only was quick with learning as a student in the sexual realm but has also take that tenacity working with others constantly. He has nurtured huge relationships with many women while lending a hand to the men around him looking for results. He is a perfect example of how many of my students have taken what they learned and mixed it with their own personal depth to be the ones who end up teaching me. He is a true honor to have as a student and in many ways I am a student of him.
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Brett
Chicago IL Student Workshop Student May 2009 and Phone consult Student May 2008 A few years ago Brett was on a mission to truly empower his life. He has always been someone who respected women and wanted to empower them by using his own life to bring that out of them. At first this can be hard when searching for a teacher to show you the right path in this, his search ended when he started working with Steve, first on the phone where Steve started customized parts of his life into huge Attraction and Comfort Pieces (the essence of theREDstack) and later her hired him to come to Chicago and work with him live and in field. After Brett’s workshop in Chicago that focused on gaining a Sexual Edge, Brett was able to escalate sexually with women in ways he had never dreamed of.
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Chris
Orlando Florida Student Owner of theREDstack April of 2008 Chris has ended up being one of my close friends in this business and has been an example of what true growth is. When I first talked to Chris he told me he was only 20 and had been running his own business for a few years. I was amazed at this. He had a few hardships that had come his way where he felt a bit isolated from the people around him. Chris was ready for change.
He will be the first to tell you that this wasn’t easy, but he will also tell you how much his working with Steve on multiple levels, not just theREDstack, but his interactions with Steve afterwards truly changed his life. Chris’ input and drive has also lead as an example of how to guide Steve’s business and how much untapped potential there could be in his working with students.
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Dan
Oklahoma City Technical Engineer Owner of theREDstack Oct of 2008 and Workshop Student Sept of 2009 Dan is someone who has been in the Dating and Lifestyle community for a while. He had seen what the other instructors had to offer and ended up going with Steve’s systems and finding great results. Dan is someone who had some huge strong points that were naturally build into his life. They were also things that most instructors would have told him to avoid. What we did was we took those technical aspects of Dan, and even his more serious side and give him a road map as to how to achieve success with that. Dan is someone who knows a lot of different approaches to the Dating and Lifestyle market so to hear what he has to say is really a compliment.
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Zuzu
Saleman Orlando, Florida Owner of theREDstack July of 2008 and Workshop Student Aug 2009 Zuzu is one of the Pick Up Artist (PUA) Community veterans he founded the Miami Lair and then took over the TOP Lair (Tampa and Orlando’s forum for meeting women) . We had initially met on the Forums and Boards talking about Dating, Meeting and Seducing women and it grew from there. He eventually saw so many of my students get amazing results from working with me, he had to jump on board. Zuzu is an interesting guy mainly cause of his humor and candor. With theREDstack he was able to get results almost immediately with his rigorous work schedule, he brought back stories with women he’d meet all over, some in Strip Clubs, and some in Bars. So he then took things to the next Level Hiring me for a weekend workshop. On his workshop he learned what I am so known for, how to connect almost instantly with someone who he finds attractive. I saw it and it was impressive even to me. Knowing Zuzu, he will take these things to new levels as he always does.
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Von
Engineer San Francisco, Ca Owner of theREDstack May 2009 and Workshop Student Aug 2009 Von is someone who everyone should look up to and one of those students where personal change almost seems limitless. His life started in India where he grew up in a small city and a very sheltered family. His education took him to the United States where he saw a different world. Unlike most people who become overloaded with the USA Von actually took the road to change very carefully and keeping to his own beliefs. When we met through the Pick Up Artist (PUA) Community I knew very little about him, but after he hired me for theREDstack I learned so much more about him and started really valuing the time I spent interacting with him. I have crashed on his coach and he has always been really hospitable to me, later we ended up working together more and he learned in his own way, mainly observing. But he took those tools back home and once applied he got fast results.
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Tony
Golf Instructor
Dallas TX
Workshop Student July 2009
Tony has ended up becoming a Great Friend of mine. One thing I like about tony is that he knows what it is like to have to be the BEST. He is one of the top Golf Instructors in the United States. He came in contact with me wondering whether or not this ‘game’ stuff could get him the women he really wanted in his life. He actually had a good flow of women that he interacted with but he wasn’t able to attract the one that he really wanted. Since he lives close, I go out with him quite a bit, and he has seen the light in many ways, now not only meeting the women he likes, but also moving further down that road of personal excellence.
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“No matter what level you’re at right now, Steve El Topo – He’s your man…”
Nektar-Orlando, Fl 2008
There are a couple of things I wanted to add here, since I have worked with el topo in the past. First, his advice on attraction is among the best – if not THE BEST – in the community. Second, as most of us are aware, qualification and comfort are absolutely critical; and el topo is without a doubt the best instructor out there in this area of the game. Finally, the subtleties of communication (body language, tonality, etc) are the most important aspects of communication in terms of building attraction, creating an emotional connection, as well as beginning the seduction process. Again, el topo is widely recognized as the best instructor out there in this regard.
Frankly, his blog speaks for itself, and there is a lot of very useful, FREE information on it.
Back in late January, I took a bootcamp with el topo. As part of the bootcamp, I received a routine stack, and I have to admit that the attraction material in there was exceptional. In addition, the same night lay frames, identity grounding material, cold reads, and qualification material were phenomenal. Bottom line, this stuff transformed my game…AND GOT ME LAID. More importantly, it gave me the material to create any type of relationship, whether it was a one night stand (I’ve had a number of them since my training with el topo) or a long term relationship (I’m currently in a great LTR right now).
I really think that one of the most important aspects of el topo’s attraction game is not what he says, but rather HOW he says it. The advice he gave me on body language, facial expressions, and tonality was priceless. In fact, I build as much attraction based off of my body language, kino, tonality and facial expressions, as I do with my routines (if not more). This advice alone is worth well in excess of the price of the seminar.
In all honesty, el topo equips his students with the skillset to run both structured game and natural game. I ran structured game for awhile, but this has morphed into natural game, based off of the underlying principles of attraction, qualification/comfort, and seduction I learned from my seminar with el topo.
The bottom line is that this crew includes some of the best instructors in the pick up community, and I highly recommend their seminars.
Nektar
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